Many a little girl dreams of hearing these magical words from a beloved. But, first, she’ll need to find someone who might be “the one,” then date, and then fall in love.
And the courtship doesn’t stop there. Then comes . . .
From November to Valentine’s Day each year, more than 500,000 men “pop the question.” And, of those, 26 percent of the women asked—and this figure may seem low—will be disappointed with their proposal.
|Americans began sending valentines, as a custom, in the mid-1800s. This 1909 Valentine’s Day postcard was sent to “Master C. C. Crittenden” in Wake Forest.
Source: North Carolina Museum of History collection, 1953.39.54.
Here are some other interesting statistics, most of them based on a February 2011 survey of 3,000 men and women on The Knot and Men’s Health websites:
- Women are especially romantic when it comes to proposals for marriage: almost 100 percent expect a wedding proposal—and they expect it to be romantic and special.
- One-third, 33 percent, of women say the biggest proposal-related mistake is proposing without an engagement ring. That’s not to say the women said “no,” but it does mean no gold stars were earned!
- More than three-quarters, 76 percent, of men think it imperative that they propose on bent knee; but less than half, only 49 percent, of women think so.
- Half, 50 percent, of men cannot keep the surprise a secret—they tell their friends; and if the surprise gets spoiled . . . woe be the man.
- About 60 percent of both men and women agree that asking parents for their daughter’s hand is an important step.
One man did it right!
Lavesh Pritmani and Saanchi Pal met, a little ahead of today’s trend, online—in an AIM chat room more than nine years ago. They both attended local high schools in Raleigh and discovered they had common connections and interests in Indian culture and music.
After Saanchi’s family moved to Massachusetts in 2006, social media enabled the two to stay in contact, and they began traveling together. In particular, they explored different cultures through museums in New York, Chicago, Miami, Zurich, Milan, Nice, and Monaco, and then, finally, back home in North Carolina, at the Museum of History.
Over the years, the two fell in love, and Lavesh decided the time had come to ask Saanchi for her hand in marriage—and he did it at the Museum of History. Really? Yes, in our reconstructed 1920s Drugstore exhibit, in front of more than 50 museum visitors!
That was romantic?
You may not think that proposing at a museum is romantic, but the couple loves history, which made a proposal at the museum appropriate—and, Lavesh thought, extra special. So he contacted the museum and discussed options. Museum personnel suggested a curator’s tour, and arrangements were made—including preparation of a faux artifact story label and a mounting for the engagement ring. The display was placed on the jewelry case in the pharmacy.
|Lavesh’s proposal plan included preparing a faux artifact story label and mounting the engagement ring as if it were an artifact, then displaying them on a jewelry case in the drugstore gallery.
Source: Lavesh Pritmani and Saanchi Pal
When the day arrived—Saturday, October 25, 2014—the tour was announced, and museum visitors proceeded to the third-floor exhibit. But, instead of the usual talk and tour, group participants became part of a first for the Museum of History. They were witnesses to an unexpected, romantic proposal.
As a WRAL-TV (CBS) news team recorded him, Lavesh proposed on bent knee to the love of his life. According to the survey statistics above, he did it all: romance, ring, bent knee, surprise, parents—check, check, check, check, and check.
So . . . did she say “yes”?
Find out in a subsequent post . . .